Have you ever been told you're crazy so often, you believe it? Have you ever heard the phrase, "EVERYBODY thinks you're (fill in the blank) and if so, what was your reaction? Fear, anger, hurt, and a need to "change" for others? Or, did you take those words and use them to help you grow stronger within?
Overall, how concerned are you about what others think of you, and how much do you truly accept yourself?
Here you will find articles on acceptance, self-love, and unconditional love of others. Additionally, the willingness and courage to FIGHT for our own well-being and the ones we love who genuinely have our backs. I know some hear the word "fight" and cringe because not everyone thrives on confrontation. Actually, I hate confrontation. The unfortunate truth is, we can't avoid it in this slowly devolving world of politics, opinions, stigmas, and constant redefinitions of abuse.
This blog addresses tough questions about emotional hurts, post-traumatic stress, and mental illness. Specifically, I will be addressing which is which. We all have to think about these things especially if we're having problems coping with everyday life, or someone else is. Anyone can go to a psychiatrist and get diagnosed for bipolar disorder, depression or any of the dreaded personality disorders. However, what is it really? Is it a chemical imbalance or PTSD? We need to ask this question about everything, even addictions. Sometimes we can self-medicate with substances and be psychologically dependent, not exactly physically dependent. We tend to want to numb out when things get bad. PTSD is intense. Lately, I've been researching various forms of abuse, particularly narcissistic. I have lived through this type of abuse more times than I even knew. It is some of the most damaging pain anyone can go through. Those of you who know what it's like to have endured narcissistic abuse will hopefully find solace in the understanding that you're not alone. Narcissistic sociopaths and psychopaths make up some of the vilest perpetrators in the world.
There is, of course, that critical factor that we are responsible for our own healing. We need to look inside ourselves, but sometimes outside help is needed. This blog is not intended to be a medical or psychological replacement. You may be able to handle whatever problems you have on your own. However, it's not a wise idea to take that chance without at least looking for whatever professional help you can find. Tell them what is going on, listen to their views, take notes, and decide for yourself. One thing needs to be clear here. I'm not suggesting you blame all your problems on other people. Yes, some people do harm, and it's healthy and essential to know they harmed you, and to hold them accountable. However, this moment, NOW, is where you decide what you're going to do about the past. Do you want to allow whoever abused you in your childhood or recent past keep you miserable for the rest of your life? Or do you want to heal from that and find happiness for yourself despite them? I would pick the latter if I were you. Who else is responsible for your own well-being now? Whoever your abusers were, be it a parent, a spouse, a lover or a friend, they can't take back what they did to you. Most of them wouldn't even if you asked them to. They are better off being left by the wayside, some of them being utterly vile and without remorse for what they did to you. You are better than they are, and you owe it to yourself to be proactive in your mental health.
We can recover from these hurts. We are allowed to look honestly at the trauma left behind. We are also permitted, no matter how we might feel, to appreciate the GREAT things in life, that have helped us through. As many terrible things that may have happened to you, surely there are a few things that came about which made you smile, laugh or even feel like you have a chance to be truly happy for the rest of your days.
The stigma of mental illness is a significant setback to some of us. It is for me in many ways. As I write this, I am not exactly where I want to be in life. I have found some helpful coping mechanisms, but some of the ways I conduct my recovery have of late not been working. Johnny Depp, however, is one I have gleaned a lot of inspiration from, as much for how to cope with my problems as pure enjoyment of his movies and music. A few times, he discussed mental illness. One of my favorite things he said about it goes as follows:
“We are all damaged in our own way. Nobody's perfect. I think we're all somewhat screwy, every single one of us."
Sometimes society will go too far in scrutinizing, defining and labeling people. Many psychologists and psychiatrists get it wrong. However, their training allows them to know a lot of what we’re not able to figure out on our own. There have been a lot of dramatic changes over the years. What is considered a sign of mental illness today is far different than it was a hundred years ago. Many improvements have been made in the medical, psychiatric and psychological fields. We still have a ways to go, but more people have a chance for quality of life now than they did when a single thought that didn’t conform to another’s expectations resulted in a sentence to a state institution, sometimes for life.
We are all here together shooting for the same goal. We all want to live good, healthy, happy lives. We deserve that. We always did.
Welcome aboard! Let’s explore some free madness together.
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